Oct 2, 2026
You've built the career, earned the recognition, and reached goals your younger self once dreamed about. Why can success still feel exhausting—or strangely unsatisfying?
In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores the gay high achievement paradox: how the strengths that help gay men succeed can become difficult to...
Sep 29, 2026
Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores the psychology behind September 11 and its lasting aftermath—from absolutism and dehumanization to grief, survivor guilt, anniversary reactions, and resilience. Drawing on personal memories and his work with gay men, he considers how experiences of vulnerability and loss shape our...
Sep 21, 2026
What if anal sex simply isn’t part of the sex you want? In this episode, Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores “sides”—gay men who prefer sexual expression without anal intercourse—and credits psychologist and certified sex therapist Dr. Joe Kort for originating and developing the term.
Ken reframes being a side not...
Aug 25, 2026
Many gay men prepare financially for retirement, yet still feel uncertain about what they are retiring into.
Ken Howard, LCSW, CST, explores the “blueprint gap”: reaching later life without an inherited picture of what a satisfying retirement should contain. Traditional retirement narratives often assume children,...
Aug 21, 2026
What happens when a long-term gay couple is no longer fully monogamous—but neither partner feels entirely comfortable calling the relationship open?
Ken Howard, LCSW, CST explores the emotional territory between monogamy and consensual non-monogamy: relationships that change gradually, sexual agreements that make...